Are you ready to Shine?

I’ve barely had time to breathe since December and now I can tell you all about it.

I took a contract full-time position working for TurboTax for tax season and it’s been a wild ride. (more about all the things I learned in the past 5 months later).

I took the contract because I knew it was time for a change. I’d been feeling a bit “meh” about my work as a marketing coach for mystics. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my clients and loved watching them succeed but something felt off and I couldn’t put my finger on it.  Now I know that it was just the Universe’s way of reminding me to hone in on my priorities and passions. I needed to get into alignment with myself.

Too much navel-gazing only begets more ennui and navel-gazing for me. I’m one of those people who needs to be DOING in order to figure out what it means to be BEING. Not everyone is this way, but with my stiff, strong thumbs and over-active Jupiter mounts and stars I know that moving and doing is a way for me to sort things out. Being on the go forces me to laser focus on my priorities and to clarify what matters most.

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Palmistry readings for clarity and purpose

It wasn’t long into my contract that I realized I didn’t miss the doing of marketing coaching.  In fact, I felt relieved that I could make the same amount of money working to empower our agents and contributing to an awesome team that I had made coaching. It was easy to do my work and I felt great getting paid for it!

I made a clear distinction — I love to HELP people with their marketing but even more so I love to groom people to rise to their best and find their message to put into the world. However, I felt pretty crappy trying to put together a one-size-fits-all system of marketing (which is necessary in order to scale and make a decent living) when I’m particularly jazzed about the ways we’re all so different and amazing. Just because I know a lot about marketing and sales (remember I did it in my corporate career for more than 15 years) doesn’t mean that my way of marketing is the only way. It certainly doesn’t mean that it will always work for you…primarily because you and I have very different fingerprint patterns, hand prints, DNA and astrological charts. So basically, it was a drag marketing myself as a marketing coach and I was starting to think I didn’t want to get paid to do it anymore. Which is when the TurboTax gig pretty much fell into my lap (still can’t figure out how they found me) and I said yes to the opportunity that the Universe was handing me on a silver platter.

Without that marketing stuff in the way, I realized that I missed reading hands. More than I thought I would. I still had the feeling that there was something else that will be added to the mix in my toolbox for helping people, but I missed looking at fingerprints and hands and lines and sharing that wisdom with people who are ready to hear it. Luckily I’ve had a number of colleagues hit me up for readings in our off hours and they’ve kept my schedule pretty full. Each of those readings was a blast and the people getting the readings were more than delighted with what they learned about themselves!

I’ve been doing readings all along while working full-time. Now that tax season is almost over – (can I get a Hallelujah and an Amen?!) I’ll be conducting 10 readings a month between my travels this summer.  They’ll be in person here in Tucson or by phone or Skype if you’re not lucky enough to live here 🙂 And if I can squeeze it in when I’m on the East Coast I’ll be happy to do your reading there too. (If you want to know where and when I’ll be in Virginia – send me an email or subscribe to my newsletter).

In the meantime, I’m working on listening to my heart to see what comes next while I’m hiking the mountains, walking as many miles as my feet will allow around this awesome town and putting together some new passion projects that have been on the back burner for way too long!

Want a reading? They’re first come-first served on the schedule. And you can reserve yours here.

 

 

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Do You Tell People You’re a Palm Reader?

Hi, I'm Peggie adn I'm a Palmist

I read hands and have been a professional palmist for more than 13 years. I also talk to animals, listen to messages from Nature, meditate and have a deeply personal practice with A Course in Miracles.

These are not necessarily things that come up in mainstream conversation.  While I’m a proponent of “being me” and encourage others to find their inner bliss and live it out loud, I also have a very stubborn Saturnian streak – that is about practicality, nuts and bolts and to an extent, fitting in which is at a polar opposition to my unbelievable need to live my eccentricities out loud.

It’s hard to tell people that I read hands and never mind the struggle I have about how much is too much to share about the rest of my beliefs. My beliefs are all hard won, lots of soul searching, researching and practical testing have gone into my stances on everything from eating meat to working for the man to reincarnation.  All of these are intrinsic to who I am and how I see myself, but they aren’t always easy to share. I’d rather blather on about some funny story or a tidbit of what happened on my last hike in the Canyon than tell you some of these deep-seated beliefs of mine.

It seems I don’t care if you think I’m too talkative or even too bossy, but I do care what you think about my deepest beliefs.  I guess I’m just afraid I won’t fit in. In that I’m not so different from everyone else in the world – we all just want to be loved and we are all desperately afraid that if someone knows the “real” person residing inside, then we will be unlovable. Right?

I’m telling you this in case you ever find yourself in a position where you feel you can’t be “you.”

Now I’m not talking about overt bias and bigotry – that’s a real problem that cannot be shifted with a few mindset shifts primarily, because the bigotry resides in the mind of the bigot.  I’m talking about plain old-fashioned self-defeating fear that says you can’t fit in and be you.

I’ve heard people of all ages tell me that they don’t give a hoot what anyone thinks of them. I admire that stance but I also sense in many of their declarations a defensiveness that comes from a desire to, in essence, ostracize themselves before they can be ostracized.

What do you do if you feel like you can’t be you? How do you deal with those feelings that make you want to hide out – at least from a part of who you know yourself to be?

I posed the questions, “Do you ever feel like you can’t be yourself, and if so, how do you overcome that feeling?” to one of my private Facebook groups and was intrigued and delighted by the responses.

Being yourself in all situations can be hard, but here are some tips, thoughts and insights from my brilliant Facebook group members:

Really the idea of one’s ‘whole self’ is a misnomer. It usually means the self to which I am most attached, that I accept as ‘me’ – that I wish others to accept as ‘me’. This no more ‘my whole self’ than the selves I keep private. Feeling constrained in the presence of others is a matter of comfort – not essence. Advice? I like ‘follow your bliss’ – just not sure what it means at 4am, 3rd wakeup for the night tending to a baby, or elderly relative, or….any number of things that still require presence regardless of how the ‘whole self’ feels about it. Don’t do things that make you feel lousy, keep your word, back your own experience, recognize how much you don’t know, how much vaster the world (and I) am than I can possibly conceive. Don’t blame others for your disinclination to be in clear disagreement with them.” ~ Ruth

Kim shares, “I have often felt like that (like I couldn’t be myself) my entire life. Learning my Myers-Briggs type helped a lot with understanding the why of it but it has taken years (hand analysis and learning to read hands over the last couple of years added another layer of understanding) to feel like it’s OK to be me. There are times when I still “hide out” depending on the situation and people.”

And finally, Pamelah says, “I share the parts of me that I want to share with each person. It’s not the same with everybody and that feels completely right.”

So I bring the question to you fine reader, do you ever feel you can’t be yourself? What does being “your true self” mean to you? And what do you do to find your truth when you’re feeling afraid to share it?

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Communication Secrets

End Miscommunication Using Palmistry

Palmistry can help you communicate so you're understood

Did you ever play the “telephone” game? Where one person starts out with a short story or phrase and whispers it in the ear of the next person in line? This goes on through an entire line or classroom and the last person stands up and states out loud what she just heard.

It’s often funny to see how from the original a story can change after all that whispering. Communication is often confusing. Maybe that’s because we spend a great deal of time thinking about how we’re going to respond, or because we’re listening to their information and trying to put ourselves into their story.

Useful communication takes diligence on the part of the giver and the receiver. We can trace most of our personal and professional woes to miscommunication, and it’s not a great leap to see how the inability to communicate has led to unrest around the world.

Why is it such a challenge to communicate effectively?

Why do we have so much trouble saying what we really mean and hearing what other people are trying to convey?

We all have an innate style of communicating and it’s our wish or presumption that everyone else has the same style. Except they don’t.  Other people have a way of communicating that is innate to them and can seem alien to us.

This is where understanding your heart line type can help! Your heart lines show how you communicate. Your heart line also shows how you wish everyone would communicate with you!

There are four heart line types and each has its own style.

The Passionate or Diva heart line requires speed. They don’t have time for details and the history of how you came to your conclusion – they simply want to know what it’s got to do with them! Whether you’re selling to a Diva or trying to convince him to clean his room, it’s in your best interest to present the highlights in a useful, quick manner. You can help them by writing down reminders or deadlines and popping in with quick check-ins to ensure that you’re still top of mind. The Passionate can get easily distracted by shiny objects and new adventures. In conversation, they may promise to do something but at the appointed time, they don’t show up. Don’t take it personally, they ran down a rabbit hole after something else interesting and lost track of time.

The Nurturer heart line requires your time. They don’t like you to fast-forward in conversations and they enjoy learning all about your back story. They want to know how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Whether you’re selling to a Nurturer or want to get them to put down the phone and talk to you, it’s in your best interest to share your feelings.  Tell them why you feel your product or service will make a difference in their life and let them know how they’ll feel once they’ve made the purchase. To get them off the phone and into conversation, tell them, from your heart, how it feels when you get to spend time together, really listening to each other. The conundrum here is that the Nurturer truly feels she is connecting when she is on the phone using social media, texting and emailing other people!  Nurturers can lose track of time because they can get wrapped up in someone else’s story or drama. Don’t take it personally if a Nurturer shows up late because they were busy helping out a stranger who was lost. It’s their nature. However, it’s okay to call and let them know you’re waiting!

The Strong and Silent or Hermit heart line requires time to process information. This doesn’t mean he’s slow, it means he wants to have time to ingest what you’re sharing. He takes in information and lets it settle before he makes any decisions or responds.  Whether you’re selling to a Strong and Silent or trying to determine how he feels about you in your relationship, it’s in your best interest to make specific statements, ask specific questions and allow them time to respond. Give them specific dates and times when you’d like to follow up or continue the conversation. They don’t need multiple reminders, once they have your appointment on the calendar; they are going to show up! Although they really appreciate it when you reach out and give them a 24 hour courtesy reminder – that way they know that you are serious and will follow through!

The Philosopher or Romantic Idealist heart line requires information from you. She likes to get things right and is often worried that she doesn’t have enough information to make a wise decision.  Shecan come off as aloof and can seem distracted.  Whether you’re selling to a Philosopher or trying to get her to pick a place for dinner, it’s in your best interest to limit the options, give a specific deadline and let them know there is no wrong answer.  Philosophers are notorious for wanting to research just a little longer – they spend so much time in their head weighing pros and cons! If you don’t give them deadlines and take the pressure off about the possibility they may be wrong, you could be waiting a long time for a decision. Rest assured a Philosopher will be happy once the decision is made, just allow the time to ask any questions they need to make an informed choice.

These little snippets give you a quick overview of each heart line in real life. If you lean heavily to one of these types, note that if you’re having a hard time communicating with someone in your life, they may be coming from another heart line perspective! It doesn’t make them wrong, it makes them different.

Want to discover your heart line style? Order your mini-reading today!

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