Do You Tell People You’re a Palm Reader?

Hi, I'm Peggie adn I'm a Palmist

I read hands and have been a professional palmist for more than 13 years. I also talk to animals, listen to messages from Nature, meditate and have a deeply personal practice with A Course in Miracles.

These are not necessarily things that come up in mainstream conversation.  While I’m a proponent of “being me” and encourage others to find their inner bliss and live it out loud, I also have a very stubborn Saturnian streak – that is about practicality, nuts and bolts and to an extent, fitting in which is at a polar opposition to my unbelievable need to live my eccentricities out loud.

It’s hard to tell people that I read hands and never mind the struggle I have about how much is too much to share about the rest of my beliefs. My beliefs are all hard won, lots of soul searching, researching and practical testing have gone into my stances on everything from eating meat to working for the man to reincarnation.  All of these are intrinsic to who I am and how I see myself, but they aren’t always easy to share. I’d rather blather on about some funny story or a tidbit of what happened on my last hike in the Canyon than tell you some of these deep-seated beliefs of mine.

It seems I don’t care if you think I’m too talkative or even too bossy, but I do care what you think about my deepest beliefs.  I guess I’m just afraid I won’t fit in. In that I’m not so different from everyone else in the world – we all just want to be loved and we are all desperately afraid that if someone knows the “real” person residing inside, then we will be unlovable. Right?

I’m telling you this in case you ever find yourself in a position where you feel you can’t be “you.”

Now I’m not talking about overt bias and bigotry – that’s a real problem that cannot be shifted with a few mindset shifts primarily, because the bigotry resides in the mind of the bigot.  I’m talking about plain old-fashioned self-defeating fear that says you can’t fit in and be you.

I’ve heard people of all ages tell me that they don’t give a hoot what anyone thinks of them. I admire that stance but I also sense in many of their declarations a defensiveness that comes from a desire to, in essence, ostracize themselves before they can be ostracized.

What do you do if you feel like you can’t be you? How do you deal with those feelings that make you want to hide out – at least from a part of who you know yourself to be?

I posed the questions, “Do you ever feel like you can’t be yourself, and if so, how do you overcome that feeling?” to one of my private Facebook groups and was intrigued and delighted by the responses.

Being yourself in all situations can be hard, but here are some tips, thoughts and insights from my brilliant Facebook group members:

Really the idea of one’s ‘whole self’ is a misnomer. It usually means the self to which I am most attached, that I accept as ‘me’ – that I wish others to accept as ‘me’. This no more ‘my whole self’ than the selves I keep private. Feeling constrained in the presence of others is a matter of comfort – not essence. Advice? I like ‘follow your bliss’ – just not sure what it means at 4am, 3rd wakeup for the night tending to a baby, or elderly relative, or….any number of things that still require presence regardless of how the ‘whole self’ feels about it. Don’t do things that make you feel lousy, keep your word, back your own experience, recognize how much you don’t know, how much vaster the world (and I) am than I can possibly conceive. Don’t blame others for your disinclination to be in clear disagreement with them.” ~ Ruth

Kim shares, “I have often felt like that (like I couldn’t be myself) my entire life. Learning my Myers-Briggs type helped a lot with understanding the why of it but it has taken years (hand analysis and learning to read hands over the last couple of years added another layer of understanding) to feel like it’s OK to be me. There are times when I still “hide out” depending on the situation and people.”

And finally, Pamelah says, “I share the parts of me that I want to share with each person. It’s not the same with everybody and that feels completely right.”

So I bring the question to you fine reader, do you ever feel you can’t be yourself? What does being “your true self” mean to you? And what do you do to find your truth when you’re feeling afraid to share it?

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Communication Secrets

End Miscommunication Using Palmistry

Palmistry can help you communicate so you're understood

Did you ever play the “telephone” game? Where one person starts out with a short story or phrase and whispers it in the ear of the next person in line? This goes on through an entire line or classroom and the last person stands up and states out loud what she just heard.

It’s often funny to see how from the original a story can change after all that whispering. Communication is often confusing. Maybe that’s because we spend a great deal of time thinking about how we’re going to respond, or because we’re listening to their information and trying to put ourselves into their story.

Useful communication takes diligence on the part of the giver and the receiver. We can trace most of our personal and professional woes to miscommunication, and it’s not a great leap to see how the inability to communicate has led to unrest around the world.

Why is it such a challenge to communicate effectively?

Why do we have so much trouble saying what we really mean and hearing what other people are trying to convey?

We all have an innate style of communicating and it’s our wish or presumption that everyone else has the same style. Except they don’t.  Other people have a way of communicating that is innate to them and can seem alien to us.

This is where understanding your heart line type can help! Your heart lines show how you communicate. Your heart line also shows how you wish everyone would communicate with you!

There are four heart line types and each has its own style.

The Passionate or Diva heart line requires speed. They don’t have time for details and the history of how you came to your conclusion – they simply want to know what it’s got to do with them! Whether you’re selling to a Diva or trying to convince him to clean his room, it’s in your best interest to present the highlights in a useful, quick manner. You can help them by writing down reminders or deadlines and popping in with quick check-ins to ensure that you’re still top of mind. The Passionate can get easily distracted by shiny objects and new adventures. In conversation, they may promise to do something but at the appointed time, they don’t show up. Don’t take it personally, they ran down a rabbit hole after something else interesting and lost track of time.

The Nurturer heart line requires your time. They don’t like you to fast-forward in conversations and they enjoy learning all about your back story. They want to know how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Whether you’re selling to a Nurturer or want to get them to put down the phone and talk to you, it’s in your best interest to share your feelings.  Tell them why you feel your product or service will make a difference in their life and let them know how they’ll feel once they’ve made the purchase. To get them off the phone and into conversation, tell them, from your heart, how it feels when you get to spend time together, really listening to each other. The conundrum here is that the Nurturer truly feels she is connecting when she is on the phone using social media, texting and emailing other people!  Nurturers can lose track of time because they can get wrapped up in someone else’s story or drama. Don’t take it personally if a Nurturer shows up late because they were busy helping out a stranger who was lost. It’s their nature. However, it’s okay to call and let them know you’re waiting!

The Strong and Silent or Hermit heart line requires time to process information. This doesn’t mean he’s slow, it means he wants to have time to ingest what you’re sharing. He takes in information and lets it settle before he makes any decisions or responds.  Whether you’re selling to a Strong and Silent or trying to determine how he feels about you in your relationship, it’s in your best interest to make specific statements, ask specific questions and allow them time to respond. Give them specific dates and times when you’d like to follow up or continue the conversation. They don’t need multiple reminders, once they have your appointment on the calendar; they are going to show up! Although they really appreciate it when you reach out and give them a 24 hour courtesy reminder – that way they know that you are serious and will follow through!

The Philosopher or Romantic Idealist heart line requires information from you. She likes to get things right and is often worried that she doesn’t have enough information to make a wise decision.  Shecan come off as aloof and can seem distracted.  Whether you’re selling to a Philosopher or trying to get her to pick a place for dinner, it’s in your best interest to limit the options, give a specific deadline and let them know there is no wrong answer.  Philosophers are notorious for wanting to research just a little longer – they spend so much time in their head weighing pros and cons! If you don’t give them deadlines and take the pressure off about the possibility they may be wrong, you could be waiting a long time for a decision. Rest assured a Philosopher will be happy once the decision is made, just allow the time to ask any questions they need to make an informed choice.

These little snippets give you a quick overview of each heart line in real life. If you lean heavily to one of these types, note that if you’re having a hard time communicating with someone in your life, they may be coming from another heart line perspective! It doesn’t make them wrong, it makes them different.

Want to discover your heart line style? Order your mini-reading today!

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A clear guide on profitable psychic fairs

 

Palmists can use psychic fairs to build their platform

Over the weekend I went to a psychic fair in my new hometown of Tucson. On a personal level, I met some of the most amazing people and had a great time.

On a professional level I couldn’t help noticing that the event had low attendance and most of the vendors/readers were not busy at all.

As the founder of the Profitable Palmist, I’m always on the lookout for ways to improve profitability!  Here are some observations for the readers at shows like the one I attended this weekend.  These tips can help you if you’re at a super-crowded and busy show or a show that is under-attended.

  • Know why you’re there. Before you go, know your objective. Obviously making back the investment in the table is a great idea. More important is focusing on long term profitability. For instance, you may decide to charge a very low fee for a brief reading/consultation so that you can get to know as many attendees as possible. By doing so, you create a private focus group! When you know what questions people have about working with you and what challenges are in their lives, you have exactly the information you need to write tailored blog posts and newsletters! (Bonus – make sure you ask for contact information and permission to add people to your email list!) Focusing on the long-term has helped me find three perfect, year-long clients, all from a stint at a psychic fair! Go in with the end in mind and you’ll have more success than if you simply focus on a dollar amount.
  • Engage your audience. Remember, people RARELY buy the first time they see something –especially if they are still trying to figure out the whole “psychic” thing. They could be worried about breaking some rules related to their religious upbringing or they may just not be sure what an “Angelic Realm Transmission” is and rather than feel stupid by asking, they simply pass by. Make it easy for people to come up and learn what your modality can do for them. What results will they get? And for heaven’s sake, unless you have a medical reason for staying seated, get off your chair and stand up, say hello when people walk by, give them something to hold or read if they’re curious. (Basically, be the person you’d like to meet if you were in a venue where you were a little nervous and unsure of yourself. Make them feel welcome!)
  • Collect their contact information so you can continue the conversation. If your table is appealing and you welcome people they are likely to engage in conversation and ask questions. If they seem intrigued or interested in learning more, ask them if they’d like to receive occasional emails from you where you share more information like the conversation you just had. Let them know it’s free and they can unsubscribe at any time.  Another tip – ask for their phone number as well. Not everyone will give it to you but if you follow up with a phone call after the show to thank people for stopping by, you will make a great impression and I guarantee they will remember you when they are comfortable and ready to have a reading.
  • Tables need to be appealing. I know that each venue assigns you a plain tablecloth and a chair, but what can you do to make your table stand out from the person beside you? One easy and cost effective idea is to add height and dimension – bring old shoe boxes and place a colorful cloth over them and have your photo or sign on top of it so you’ve got some height to draw the eye. Bring fresh flowers or candy or a professional sign. Give people something to do or see when they come to your table, especially at shows/events that may not have much traffic. Make what you have on your table something that engenders comfort and calm – flowers are great for this! The more at ease people feel and the more they can see/touch/get a feel for you and your work, the more comfy they are in sitting down for a reading.)
  • Make it about THEM. You spent years and dollars learning your craft. You’ve studied with people who are really famous in your world and you want to assure the person looking at your booth that it’s worth it to spend money on a reading with you. It’s natural that you’ll want to share the process or the history with them. However, they don’t really give a crap. And they don’t have any idea who that person is you are talking about in reverential tones that was your teacher and your teacher’s teacher. So they nod and smile and walk away, because they were afraid to ask you who those people were because you made it sound like they should know who they are in order to have a reading. What they really wanted to know was whether or not you could help them get out of their funk, find a better job or make a healthy decision about an unhealthy situation. So before you answer the “What do you do?” question with a history of your modality and process, try something like this instead. “I use your hands to help you feel more powerful in your everyday life. Does that sound like something you’d like?”  And then let them TALK.

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