A Decade

If you ask my love, I’m not much good at sentimental dates or anniversaries. Other than my birthday most days seem like all the others and I guess my interest lies more toward the here and now then the MILESTONES.

regret is scariest of all

This is interesting because Facebook keeps asking me to share milestones on my Pragmatic Palmist page. It seems to increase something in that land. My worth? My value as a business owner? My ability to stand out? Who really knows?!

Still, the “enter a milestone” request got me thinking and then I recognized that it was 2004 that started me on this hand reading journey. That’s a DECADE.  I like the sound of that. It makes me feel stable and secure and proves to those who say otherwise, “I CAN stick with something for the long haul.” (next major milestone? a decade and more with my love)

I can’t remember what I had for breakfast on Monday (did I have breakfast on Monday?) but I can remember the beginning of my hand analysis certification process as though  it happened this morning.

To commemorate this milestone, here are 10 things I’ve learned about business, hands, life and love in the past 10 years:

  1. If you’re not happy, nothing outside of you is going to make you happy. I first had my hands read because I thought it would be a magic button that would miraculously solve all my inner turmoil and angsty hand-wringing. It didn’t.
  2. Stretching is awesome, jumping off the cliff in an attempt to start from square one sucks. I know, I know. There’s some whimsical belief that if you leap the net will appear, and while I really like that image it isn’t the way it worked for me. (yes, I hear your metaphysicians – “maybe I didn’t believe in myself enough!”)  Here’s the deal, I asked for a divorce, met a totally unstable new boyfriend, took all my cash and bought an overpriced condo instead of paying back a crap-ton of debt and sold the business that was the source of my income – all within the span of 3 months. That was a lot of plates spinning and to be honest, I’m not sure there are enough nets on the planet! I learned my lesson that all or nothing is not really the only way to begin your best life.
  3. Being spiritual isn’t the point, being present is. You see I thought a spiritual teacher had to be all kinds of holy (and obviously poor) and always good and compassionate. That’s been impossible for me and now that I think about it, a pretty ego-driven belief. All that spiritual do-goodery was getting exhausting. When I chose to simply slow down and be present, the life I lead became infinitely more enjoyable.
  4. Relationships are paramount. You’ve heard t hat adage that says you somehow become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? It’s true. Most times this is spouted as the reason for forming a business mastermind – with rich people.  And I like being rich (more on that in #5) but I like having high caliber people around even more. In 10 years I’ve  had the complete joy and surprise of meeting and cultivating friendships with men and women who, by their very presence, help me grow- spiritually, mentally and financially. I’ve also watched some relationships fade away because I no longer needed the drama. Making relationships central to my life has been a life saver.
  5. Money is not the enemy. I have no idea when or why I decided to remove money from my life like a metastasizing cancer, but I’m glad I figured out that it was ME, not money that was the issue. I had one of the most eye-opening opportunities to love money in my life. I’m glad I accepted the challenge, but I wish for you to never be in that position. As a result I’m as passionate about my relationship with money as I am with people.
  6. If you’re afraid, keep going. Whenever I’ve been afraid (and good gosh ‘coming out’ to the world as a hand reader is still scary sometimes) I go within and ask for some higher wisdom to find the Love. You can’t be afraid and feel love at the same time. So I give myself permission to love my way through to the other side of fear.
  7. Dance. Now, if you’ve EVER seen me dance you’ll have a flashback to the Seinfeld episode where Elaine goes nuts on the dance floor. I feel pretty certain that Mr. Seinfeld had a hidden camera on my life to come up with that particular riff. And he made Julia Louis-Dreyfuss watch it a few hundred times to get the dance exactly right. This simple fact about me used to MORTIFY me and then make me angry when others laughed at my dancing. So I stopped dancing. And the only person who suffered was ME. Now I dance and laugh and laugh and dance and love the fact that my body can move in all those wacky ways. The more I’m me, the more free I am to do good work in the world. So turn on the music!
  8. Screw moderation. Everything in moderation? Except moderation. I can see that working for things that aren’t that great for me – like wine or french fries, but when it comes to things I love and have passion for? No way. I am passionate about reading hands. I’m passionate about building relationships. I’m passionate about helping people reach their highest and best good and dang I’m passionate about learning new things. Why in heaven’s name would I want to moderate any of that?! I can’t have too much learning or hand reading or relationship love. Ever.
  9. Love your body. No matter  what it looks like, no matter if you cannot seem to get into the Wheel in yoga or do a headstand or Crow pose. No matter if you have two left feet on the dance floor! Celebrate your body in all it’s wonder, listen to it, nourish it, cherish it for every last thing it does today. I can’t do any work in the world without it and while I know that I, as a soul, am eternal, I am so unabashedly proud of the body I have today – all nearly 50 years of it!
  10. Love. It’s taken me ten years of introspection, deep conversation, study and more to realize what LOVE really is. It is so much bigger than me and so much more than songs and poems and romance (all good stuff though). Whenever I’m in doubt, think I cannot do something, am freaking scared of going another day trying to do this thing called life, I reflect on LOVE.

Ten years – it’s been the best  decade yet!