Don’t Confuse a Bitter Pill with a Life Sentence: or Some Palm readers really P*ss me Off


Sometimes I get so ticked off at other palmists.  Not the ones I know personally, but those other people out there, touting themselves as healers and palm readers who are acting in simply shameful ways.

Last night I met a colleague for the first time in person.  I’d always felt that she was a little chill toward me — and I couldn’t figure out why.  I wrote it off as my own inferiority complex and fears of rejection and the fact that the majority of our interactions happen on line in various social media venues.

When we met she was gracious and delightful and her eyes were full of light and dancing.  She had insightful questions about using hands to help real people in the real world.

Then she pointed to my hand

specifically to that little fork toward the bottom of my life line – where it wraps around the Mount of Venus (that cushy spot below your thumb) and asked, with urgency, “What does that mean?!”

She showed me that she had one too.

I told her that I liken it to a reminder of an event that happened in our earliest years that is in direct alignment with our “stuff” (what I also refer to as Life Lesson or Massive Growth Opportunities).  Sometimes I’ll refer to it as a bitter pill.  You know, when you get an aspirin stuck in your throat?  That feeling and taste sticks with you and that’s what this mark is all about.  Something that sticks with you.

My colleague asked, “so this isn’t going away?” 

“It’s possible, but not likely.”

“Does it go away when you completely deal with whatever it is in the past?”

“Possible, but as much as I’d like to think that I completely heal and learn all facets of my primal wound and lesson, I suspect it’s a lifelong process.  So it will probably be here for the long haul.”



She seemed relieved.

Then she showed me that she had the same thing on HER dominant hand.

We chatted a bit about childhood and healing and epiphanies and then she told me,

“I had my hands read a long time ago and the palmist told me that this was sign of a life altering illness and I’ve been carrying that around ever since.” 

While she didn’t say exactly how long ago that was, I suspect it’s been more than a decade.

This is what gets me about these so-called palm readers.  Making bold statements like that can alter the life of someone.  And not in a good way. It’s just not cool.

My entire way of being in the world is based on the belief that every single person on the planet has free will.  So how could I predict whether or not someone might or might not face a debilitating illness?

Surely, a bitter pill in the hand can lead to challenges (physical or otherwise)  if the pill is not faced and dealt with.  Life is full of opportunities to face challenges and trauma and come out stronger and more well than when you started.  On the flip side, if you’ve got a childhood trauma that you’re repressing or are not willing to face – it’s eventually going to catch up with you.  Your choice though what you do with it.

The bottom line is this – palmistry is an amazing tool for gaining clarity, working through the tough stuff and creating a map for the best version of our lives.  It’s NOT a game, nor a fortune-telling device where your future is set in stone.

Everything in your hands can change – depending on the choices you make.

If you’ve ever had a palmistry reading with someone who scared the beejesus out of you – tell me about it in the comments – I’ll help you figure out what’s really going on in your hand, okay?


6 thoughts on “Don’t Confuse a Bitter Pill with a Life Sentence: or Some Palm readers really P*ss me Off

  • April 6, 2012 at 11:33 am

    I had a "palm reader/psychic" take advantage of me when I was younger and in a very vulnerable state. I've heard so many similar stories since and each breaks my heart. She said I'd been cursed by my maternal grandmother before birth because she didn't approve of my parents' marriage…which made WAY more sense than it should have due to my damaged emotional state at the time. Of course, the curse would cost a hefty sum to lift. Over a period of a few days, I did give her (too much) money but quickly regained my composure and never went back…despite her dark and terrifying warnings. Sigh. I'll admit to you here that I sometimes fantasize about going back just to slap her in her face. Just once. And just a little bit hard.

    • April 6, 2012 at 11:57 am

      You should totally give her "what for". Recently I had a client who told me she'd paid a VERY hefty sum to a similar charlatan…who provided a similar story — wondering if it's the cousin of your reader?

      This stuff just gives us all a bad name.


  • May 11, 2012 at 8:04 pm

    Almost 30 years ago, a Pakistani co-worker (who claimed he was a very accurate palm reader) started reading palms at a party (for free). I refused to have mine read, but my husband went for it. I don't remember everything he said, but he told my husband he would be killed in a car accident "back East" at a specific age. That age is only a few years off and while the prediction didn't bother my for years, it stuck in the back of my mind and now that the age is fairly close, I am getting really worried. I know it's stupid, but it does scare me. And I hate that guy for making a prediction like that, and myself for not being able to laugh it off and allowing it to stick with me for all these years and now being worried about it.

    • May 17, 2012 at 5:11 am

      This is precisely what I'm talking about. Here's what I've got for you — your hands change – your husband's hands change. The only thing that doesn't is the fingerprints. Fingerprints are only about life purpose and life lesson — not about FUTURE events.

      So while there may have been things happening in your husband's life all those years ago that may have led to a situation – there are as many possibilities that he's made different choices, taken the "other" road so to speak.

      Think about everything that happens in our lives — good or challenging — and then think of the sequence of events that lead to that moment. Mind-boggling if you stop too long to think about it. Any of the things that led up to a given situation are simply one choice out of many — there's no telling what choices he may have made and he did make…

      So, now my admonishment — about the law of attraction — and drawing things to YOU that you focus on. And of course, you cannot focus for anyone else. Still, find a way to move through, if you can. I totally understand your worries, although you and I both know that worrying doesn't actually accomplish anything! Right?!

      Big hugs Pat!

      • May 17, 2012 at 7:19 pm

        Many thanks for taking the time to reply!! Actually, my husband probably doesn't even remember the palm reading. He laughed it off at the time and did not let it bother him. I always worry enough for both of us. : )
        I do know I need to get past this and stop driving myself nuts.

        • May 18, 2012 at 10:18 am

          Pat — not that you asked 🙂 but worrying is definitely detrimental to YOUR health! You know all the jokes right, about worrying?

          It's just another form of trying to CREATE control in our lives — and truth be told, we don't actually get to control anything. at. all. This is where the hands are really useful — using them as a map so that we can learn to trust the process — that we'll get where we're going with ease and joy (if that's the way we want to — because of course we can continue to to spin and wring our hands too — totally our choice!)

          Oh and you can now choose to let this go. Don't bring an 'accident' into your life just to fulfill a worrisome belief. (worrying about it IS giving it life and your belief)


          Big hugs to you!


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