Communication Secrets

End Miscommunication Using Palmistry

Palmistry can help you communicate so you're understood

Did you ever play the “telephone” game? Where one person starts out with a short story or phrase and whispers it in the ear of the next person in line? This goes on through an entire line or classroom and the last person stands up and states out loud what she just heard.

It’s often funny to see how from the original a story can change after all that whispering. Communication is often confusing. Maybe that’s because we spend a great deal of time thinking about how we’re going to respond, or because we’re listening to their information and trying to put ourselves into their story.

Useful communication takes diligence on the part of the giver and the receiver. We can trace most of our personal and professional woes to miscommunication, and it’s not a great leap to see how the inability to communicate has led to unrest around the world.

Why is it such a challenge to communicate effectively?

Why do we have so much trouble saying what we really mean and hearing what other people are trying to convey?

We all have an innate style of communicating and it’s our wish or presumption that everyone else has the same style. Except they don’t.  Other people have a way of communicating that is innate to them and can seem alien to us.

This is where understanding your heart line type can help! Your heart lines show how you communicate. Your heart line also shows how you wish everyone would communicate with you!

There are four heart line types and each has its own style.

The Passionate or Diva heart line requires speed. They don’t have time for details and the history of how you came to your conclusion – they simply want to know what it’s got to do with them! Whether you’re selling to a Diva or trying to convince him to clean his room, it’s in your best interest to present the highlights in a useful, quick manner. You can help them by writing down reminders or deadlines and popping in with quick check-ins to ensure that you’re still top of mind. The Passionate can get easily distracted by shiny objects and new adventures. In conversation, they may promise to do something but at the appointed time, they don’t show up. Don’t take it personally, they ran down a rabbit hole after something else interesting and lost track of time.

The Nurturer heart line requires your time. They don’t like you to fast-forward in conversations and they enjoy learning all about your back story. They want to know how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Whether you’re selling to a Nurturer or want to get them to put down the phone and talk to you, it’s in your best interest to share your feelings.  Tell them why you feel your product or service will make a difference in their life and let them know how they’ll feel once they’ve made the purchase. To get them off the phone and into conversation, tell them, from your heart, how it feels when you get to spend time together, really listening to each other. The conundrum here is that the Nurturer truly feels she is connecting when she is on the phone using social media, texting and emailing other people!  Nurturers can lose track of time because they can get wrapped up in someone else’s story or drama. Don’t take it personally if a Nurturer shows up late because they were busy helping out a stranger who was lost. It’s their nature. However, it’s okay to call and let them know you’re waiting!

The Strong and Silent or Hermit heart line requires time to process information. This doesn’t mean he’s slow, it means he wants to have time to ingest what you’re sharing. He takes in information and lets it settle before he makes any decisions or responds.  Whether you’re selling to a Strong and Silent or trying to determine how he feels about you in your relationship, it’s in your best interest to make specific statements, ask specific questions and allow them time to respond. Give them specific dates and times when you’d like to follow up or continue the conversation. They don’t need multiple reminders, once they have your appointment on the calendar; they are going to show up! Although they really appreciate it when you reach out and give them a 24 hour courtesy reminder – that way they know that you are serious and will follow through!

The Philosopher or Romantic Idealist heart line requires information from you. She likes to get things right and is often worried that she doesn’t have enough information to make a wise decision.  Shecan come off as aloof and can seem distracted.  Whether you’re selling to a Philosopher or trying to get her to pick a place for dinner, it’s in your best interest to limit the options, give a specific deadline and let them know there is no wrong answer.  Philosophers are notorious for wanting to research just a little longer – they spend so much time in their head weighing pros and cons! If you don’t give them deadlines and take the pressure off about the possibility they may be wrong, you could be waiting a long time for a decision. Rest assured a Philosopher will be happy once the decision is made, just allow the time to ask any questions they need to make an informed choice.

These little snippets give you a quick overview of each heart line in real life. If you lean heavily to one of these types, note that if you’re having a hard time communicating with someone in your life, they may be coming from another heart line perspective! It doesn’t make them wrong, it makes them different.

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Palmistry Changes Lives

9 Practical Ways Palmistry Can Improve Your Life

 

Palmistry can help relieve stress

Palmistry isn’t fortune-telling. It’s a tool, like any assessment tool you may have taken in your life to help you know yourself better. It’s also a real life GPS that helps you check in on your journey through your days to see if you’re on your own right track. Having your hands read doesn’t change your life, and let me remind you, you are in no way broken!

However, if you wake up in the middle of the night with a zillion thoughts in your head, or you spend days feeling overwhelmed, or worried or just out of sorts, a palmistry reading can start you on the road to feeling better and making informed choices that help you feel better, sleep better and manage your time in a way that serves your highest good. (i.e., you get the important to you stuff done first!)

Sound good?  Here are 9 (and a bonus) reasons to have your hands read:

  1. To know yourself better. This sounds like a self-involved Diva-type pursuit. I assure you it’s anything but! If you have ever found yourself in the center of a maelstrom of pain and heartache and wondered what the heck was going on – you know how important it can be to know and understand yourself. While trying to find your way out of a difficult situation is one reason it’s useful to know yourself, it’s equally important to understand your needs and wants so you can banish should and get on with your life.
  2. To release your need to be in control. The more you know about yourself, how you’re hard-wired and what your innate talents and challenges are, the easier it is to let go of your need to control everything and everyone in your world. It’s not your job to be CEO of the Universe, so let it go. It’s much easier to do this when you understand the hands you were born with and the hands of those you deal with on a regular basis.
  3. To regain your power and your voice in relationships. Whether professional or personal, relationships can be the bane of your existence. They can also be the source of great joy. However, learning to own your strengths and weaknesses without judgment gives you the gift of being able to see yourself as whole and perfect. This wisdom allows you the freedom to find your way back to your own power. When you are in your power, you know that your requests are worthy if you ask from a place of truth.
  4. To heal relationships. As you dig into the ways your gifts and talents and challenges show up in the world, you begin to see that others are not hard-wired like you are and you realize that instead of driving you crazy, they were simply trying to be heard on their own terms. Longstanding relationship challenges take time to heal, but with the compassion you learn as you read hands, you have a miraculous tool to progress on that healing journey.
  5. To excel at your career. Entrepreneurs, artists and corporate employees alike learn to focus on their strengths while working through and with their challenges when they have access to the wisdom in their hands. Team building is easier with the insights you have through palmistry and can help you in interviews, salary negotiations, annual reviews and when you’re pitching your new idea – simply by understanding on a deep level the communication styles and personal needs of the people present.
  6. To attract the perfect people to your business. The more you understand the nuances of palmistry and the mysteries in your own hands, the easier it is to hone in on your core client. You’ll understand on a deep and meaningful level what problems they really want to solve (the problem under the problem) and you will have the language to help them!
  7. To expand your current offerings. Whether you’re a massage therapist, yogi, tarot reader, psychic, medium or healer, having an additional tool in your box is immensely useful for your clients. Some clients long to have a hands-on approach to their healing and want to have you point to exactly where their challenge is hiding. This is especially true if you tend to work with skeptics, who want to believe what you’re telling them, but harbor a secret fear that you’re just making things up.
  8. To find your own niche and help others do the same. Bloggers, artists, designers, creatives and anyone running their own business are often told that the key to success is to find their niche. Using your hands you can identify your niche in any number of ways and, if you’re a coach, you can help others do the same.
  9. To relieve anxiety and sleep better. When you know yourself deeply and can compassionately understand how you’re “hard-wired” to be in this world, it can help you work through the anxiety that comes when you compare yourself to outside forces.
  10. BONUS – Readings are now 20% off!  My end of summer sale continues through Labor Day! You can order your reading now.

Want to talk about how a private reading can help you sleep  better, find more time, and stop feeling so anxious?  Order your session today. We’ll have a preliminary chat before your reading  to ensure you get the most out of our time together

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How to Use Social Media for Mystics

Success Tools Toolbox Succeeding Goal Skills

I’m a big believer in community, “tribe,” authenticity and being you in business. If you’ve followed me for any length of time you have figured out that there’s not a huge defining line between “Public Pragmatic Palmist Peggie” and “Personal Peggie.” It’s just easier that way for me.

I have a relatively long head-line. It’s not as long as the one most of my clients have, but it’s long enough combined with my massive Air sign stuff in my astrological chart that I like to think things out. Scratch that. I like to OVERTHINK things.  I’m big on reading books, filling out templates and generally trying out all the bells and whistles before I go live with most things. This can cause a great deal of frustration in implementation.  I waffle much of the time, because the spiritual-go-with-the-flow persona wants to chill and the Type-A, super-stiff-thumb, Success Life purpose persona wants to DO! and Benchmark and LAUNCH!!!

When I get all zenned out and tell you, “just be you” I mean it.  But I know it’s not necessarily helpful for you when I tell you to do that. 

Today I’m zooming in a little on MY personal Social Media zeitgeist.  This isn’t meant to be one of those “If you do these 10 things you’ll be successful posts” but rather a brief glimpse into what’s worked and not worked in my land.  A couple of caveats: 1) I’ve been involved/using social media in some way or form since at least 2006, possibly longer. I’ve tried and used some things that aren’t really out there anymore (Plurk?! Anyone??); 2) I don’t have kids so I’m cool with having my life be an open book – there is no backlash or safety issues for them to worry about; and 3) I have worked for myself longer than I have been on Social Media – again, no backlash worries from that realm.

Over the years there have been lots of experts and gurus telling you exactly what you should do to make social media work for  you and your business. Some of these rules are logical and make good sense (be yourself!) and some of them were useful once but not so much anymore (make yourself an expert!) and some of them just didn’t ever jive with me (using bots and such to gain followers).

In the current climate pretty much anything goes but still, you see people mostly following the herd. There were more renegades in the early adapter years – no one had any real rules or understanding of how to monetize or strategically use social media, so we all just went out and tried what occurred to us. Then there were strategists and experts and everyone became the same.

Now though you get to try on what works for you and keep going. Run with what works and run the other way from whatever doesn’t.  It doesn’t matter what your brother or Uncle or even your beloved coach says if you don’t have a personality or business like theirs.

Here’s a breakdown from my life/business:

Annually

I take a look at what worked last year and plan what I’d like to change/improve/ramp up in the coming year.  In a perfect world this starts in October, but realistically it’s usually sometime around Thanksgiving. I fine tune it between Christmas and New Years.  I look at the astrological calendar and peek into what’s happening in my own chart so I can highlight some good times to get this review and planning done.  I also use the upcoming year’s astrological outlook (mostly new moons and Merc retro for me) to highlight anything that I might want to note as potentially wonky or potentially propitious.

Now that I’ve got my goals and benchmarks in hand I move onto

Monthly

At the beginning of each month I note my current stats (number of followers, likes, shares, etc) that I’ve decided to track in my annual plan and write out my goals. I use a bullet journal .  After years of buying all the cool, pretty, celebrity touted planner systems in the world, I finally decided to go this route. It’s been almost a year with my BuJo and I’m happy about it.

As I plan the month I highlight any gifts or events I want to share and promote for my peeps on the social media scene. Right now I focus on Facebook and Instagram. In the future I forsee a thrust in the YouTube and Podcast arena.  Things that I’d include in this monthly list would be short subject headers to remind me what I wanted to write about/talk about/share and preferred time frames.

Of course if I have new programs, classes or services coming up, I want to have my social media presence bring those topics up weeks and often months prior to the big ‘reveal.’ This way you get to be part of watching things happen on my end. I’m about transparency but I don’t want to bore you with every little nuance of what happens in my brain. (If I’m wrong, and you really want that, go ahead and let me know in the comments.)

Weekly

Now I’m crafting posts or pictures for the week. If I have theme I’m working on (often for Instagram, not so much here or on Facebook where I like to riff on whatever is on  my heart at a given point in time) I’ll take those pictures, draft up some copy and poke around looking for inspiration and keywords that might help me be useful to you.

Once a week I invite my instagram followers to join me on Facebook and I invite my personal Facebook followers to come over and like my business page.  I also invite each of those groups to visit me here on the website and sign up for the newsletter. I don’t have a super opt-in present for people to join the newsletter and sometimes I feel badly about that, but not enough to make it a priority just yet.  (lesson for you – go with what you got now! It’s never going to be perfect or follow all the rules. I’m still getting new subscribers each week, maybe not as many looky-loos who just want to compare my free thing to the free thing they want to create, which is okay by me).

During the week I research topics that you are interested in and find answers to questions that have been on my mind about business, about spirituality and about making money and healing relationships. I note good resources and save them to my evernote app so that I can share them in a round up or on one of my pages as appropriate.

I also listen to podcasts throughout the week on topics related to business, entrepreneurs, creativity, yarn, craft businesses, sales and metaphysics. Sometimes I toss in a few comedy related shows and health shows. Again, anything that I find useful for y’all, I’ll save to evernote and bring out when it’s useful for you.

I then put those topics into

Daily

When the new week begins I layout the daily plans. I like to  have structure, but not so much that I can’t change my mind (I’m like the wind!) once in a while. Still the tasks go on my daily assignments and I commit to following through.

I like to sleep til at least 9:30 most mornings so I do try to get my Instagram posting done as soon as I’ve had some coffee. Then I pop onto Facebook land and take a look around. I note any of my posts that have been getting some action and also poke around and see what my friends and colleagues are doing. I like to see what they’re interested in and commenting on.  I also spend at least an hour in the morning commenting where I have something worthwhile to share (I avoid simply saying, “Good job” because who really cares?) and also private messaging friends and colleagues with info that may be of use to what they’ve shared on their wall or in private.  I’m big on transparency, but I don’t have to always show up publicly to say “HEY LOOK AT ME BEING THE EXPERT HERE” because ultimately, what I want to do is be useful.  If I can be useful I check with my gut to find out the best way to do it and then do it.

I also have my intagram account set to automatically post to Facebook (my personal page), Twitter and Tumblr. These are currently the only posts I have on Twitter an Tumblr but they do keep me there and I may expand on those hubs in coming  years.

I make the rounds of each of my Facebook hubs daily. Sometimes I share an anecdote, sometimes a meme and sometimes a post or a riff on what’s in my head at any given moment. I’ve found that showing up at least once a day on my page is important. When I don’t show up, no one else does either. When I show up 3-5 times a day on my page, I get a greater response, attract more followers and generally hit my targets more quickly. In this case I’m talking about my business page.

Multiple times a day I share things on my personal page on Facebook. If it’s appropriate I’ll also cross post to a group I’m in or my business page. As I said in the beginning, I try to keep things pretty transparent. “I yam who I yam” to quote Popeye. Still not everyone on my personal page gives a hoot about my palmistry and spiritual musings.

I spend at least one day a week writing newsletters, updating autoresponders, tweaking web-pages and writing posts for the blog.

 

It may seem like a great deal of work, but this is my full time job. I schedule my on-line time just as I schedule time with my clients and time with my own coach. It’s important for me and my business because I can trace at least 40% of my income each month to my on-line efforts. That’s enough to dedicate at least 40% of my time to putting this together.

In the future I’ll be experimenting with some new venues and if one of them seems better suited than Facebook for you and the rest of my perfect peeps, I’ll likely shift there. For now, it’s a great place and I’m enjoying the opportunity to connect.

 

I want to reiterate, this in no-way is a post about what you “have to do” or even should do to build your social media presence. It’s a simple look at a breakdown of my process. I’m hoping it’s useful for you!

 

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