Will He Come Back to Me?

Will He Come Back to me?

If I had a dollar for every single time I’ve been asked “Will my Ex come back to me?”  – I would be George and Amal’s neighbor on that Italian island, with enough left over to jet set to the Galapagos every time I needed a fix of wild nature!

Seriously y’all. Why do you keep bemoaning the situation between you and the ex? Why are you mooning over him and wanting him (or her) to come back to you? There was a perfectly good reason you broke it off and there’s an equally great reason for you to learn the joy of being single and unattached.

Now let me tell you the truth. I’ve been there a few times myself. Mostly I was the breaker-upper – because – attachment and trust issues. Sometimes though I was left staring into the broken shards of my imaginary perfect life with Mr. not-so-Perfect-but-I-was-going-to-make-him-so.  It hurt and it stung to be left and my Ego was really in a tizzy. I hated finding out that the person that I’d covered with my love and kisses was out and about town with one (or three) others, all the while promising me that we’d buy that adorable house on the corner together so we could raise kids and get old and gray together.

I have love in my heart for you when you ask this question, even while I’m internally groaning. I’m groaning because I see myself and so many of my friends when we were in that same position. I’m smiling because we all came out of it as better, more joyful people and empowered people who eventually found bliss on our own terms. Some of us with partners that are wildly more of a fit for us than the one we cried for and some of us without partners but the freedom and vision to dive into living our dreams on our own terms. We’re all so much more US as a result of letting that other one go.

When you put your hands in front of me and ask me if your ex is coming back I can only tell you what I see about YOU and how you are in relationships. I can clearly see where you’re stuck and I can give you specific details about how and why you get yourself entangled with people who are not a fit. This doesn’t mean that they are bad people. And it totally doesn’t mean that you need to Gumby yourself into someone you’re not in order to regain that person in your life.

What you’ve just experienced is the law of contrast. It shows you all the ways you’re attracting and buying into relationships that are not a fit for you for the long term. This doesn’t mean that the relationship was wasted time. (I know, I know, everyone else is getting married! They’re having kids! and you feel left behind.)  This is a great opportunity to ask yourself if you trust the Divine. Divine timing is always right. You can’t do this wrong! (what a relief, right?)  Just because you’re comparing yourself to someone else doesn’t mean that you’re behind or wrong or dealing with an evil curse. It simply means that you’re learning lessons on your own time.

Want to speed up that learning curve?

Look to your hands and take action on what you learn.

Too many people want a psychic to tell them, “Yes, he’s coming back. He’ll be there in 3 months,” so they can sit back and wait for life to happen to them. They are literally handing their power over – to the psychic and to the person for whom they’re longing. What the psychic doesn’t tell you is that when he comes back it’s just more of the same and you’ll sink another decade into trying to become someone you’re not in order to “keep” them – ending up miserable with three kids who don’t want to speak to either of you once they turn 18.

Instead of asking “Will he (or she) come back to me?” Ask, “How can I be the best possible version of myself in a loving and committed relationship?” or “What are my blind-spots when it comes to relationships and how can I take action to clear up those challenges?”  Then you’ll leave your reading with some seriously useful intel and you’ll have specific guidance on moving forward to a more joyful relationship future.

Empower yourself and use your hands to light your path to love.

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Are you ready to Shine?

I’ve barely had time to breathe since December and now I can tell you all about it.

I took a contract full-time position working for TurboTax for tax season and it’s been a wild ride. (more about all the things I learned in the past 5 months later).

I took the contract because I knew it was time for a change. I’d been feeling a bit “meh” about my work as a marketing coach for mystics. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my clients and loved watching them succeed but something felt off and I couldn’t put my finger on it.  Now I know that it was just the Universe’s way of reminding me to hone in on my priorities and passions. I needed to get into alignment with myself.

Too much navel-gazing only begets more ennui and navel-gazing for me. I’m one of those people who needs to be DOING in order to figure out what it means to be BEING. Not everyone is this way, but with my stiff, strong thumbs and over-active Jupiter mounts and stars I know that moving and doing is a way for me to sort things out. Being on the go forces me to laser focus on my priorities and to clarify what matters most.

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It wasn’t long into my contract that I realized I didn’t miss the doing of marketing coaching.  In fact, I felt relieved that I could make the same amount of money working to empower our agents and contributing to an awesome team that I had made coaching. It was easy to do my work and I felt great getting paid for it!

I made a clear distinction — I love to HELP people with their marketing but even more so I love to groom people to rise to their best and find their message to put into the world. However, I felt pretty crappy trying to put together a one-size-fits-all system of marketing (which is necessary in order to scale and make a decent living) when I’m particularly jazzed about the ways we’re all so different and amazing. Just because I know a lot about marketing and sales (remember I did it in my corporate career for more than 15 years) doesn’t mean that my way of marketing is the only way. It certainly doesn’t mean that it will always work for you…primarily because you and I have very different fingerprint patterns, hand prints, DNA and astrological charts. So basically, it was a drag marketing myself as a marketing coach and I was starting to think I didn’t want to get paid to do it anymore. Which is when the TurboTax gig pretty much fell into my lap (still can’t figure out how they found me) and I said yes to the opportunity that the Universe was handing me on a silver platter.

Without that marketing stuff in the way, I realized that I missed reading hands. More than I thought I would. I still had the feeling that there was something else that will be added to the mix in my toolbox for helping people, but I missed looking at fingerprints and hands and lines and sharing that wisdom with people who are ready to hear it. Luckily I’ve had a number of colleagues hit me up for readings in our off hours and they’ve kept my schedule pretty full. Each of those readings was a blast and the people getting the readings were more than delighted with what they learned about themselves!

I’ve been doing readings all along while working full-time. Now that tax season is almost over – (can I get a Hallelujah and an Amen?!) I’ll be conducting 10 readings a month between my travels this summer.  They’ll be in person here in Tucson or by phone or Skype if you’re not lucky enough to live here 🙂 And if I can squeeze it in when I’m on the East Coast I’ll be happy to do your reading there too. (If you want to know where and when I’ll be in Virginia – send me an email or subscribe to my newsletter).

In the meantime, I’m working on listening to my heart to see what comes next while I’m hiking the mountains, walking as many miles as my feet will allow around this awesome town and putting together some new passion projects that have been on the back burner for way too long!

Want a reading? They’re first come-first served on the schedule. And you can reserve yours here.

 

 

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Do You Tell People You’re a Palm Reader?

Hi, I'm Peggie adn I'm a Palmist

I read hands and have been a professional palmist for more than 13 years. I also talk to animals, listen to messages from Nature, meditate and have a deeply personal practice with A Course in Miracles.

These are not necessarily things that come up in mainstream conversation.  While I’m a proponent of “being me” and encourage others to find their inner bliss and live it out loud, I also have a very stubborn Saturnian streak – that is about practicality, nuts and bolts and to an extent, fitting in which is at a polar opposition to my unbelievable need to live my eccentricities out loud.

It’s hard to tell people that I read hands and never mind the struggle I have about how much is too much to share about the rest of my beliefs. My beliefs are all hard won, lots of soul searching, researching and practical testing have gone into my stances on everything from eating meat to working for the man to reincarnation.  All of these are intrinsic to who I am and how I see myself, but they aren’t always easy to share. I’d rather blather on about some funny story or a tidbit of what happened on my last hike in the Canyon than tell you some of these deep-seated beliefs of mine.

It seems I don’t care if you think I’m too talkative or even too bossy, but I do care what you think about my deepest beliefs.  I guess I’m just afraid I won’t fit in. In that I’m not so different from everyone else in the world – we all just want to be loved and we are all desperately afraid that if someone knows the “real” person residing inside, then we will be unlovable. Right?

I’m telling you this in case you ever find yourself in a position where you feel you can’t be “you.”

Now I’m not talking about overt bias and bigotry – that’s a real problem that cannot be shifted with a few mindset shifts primarily, because the bigotry resides in the mind of the bigot.  I’m talking about plain old-fashioned self-defeating fear that says you can’t fit in and be you.

I’ve heard people of all ages tell me that they don’t give a hoot what anyone thinks of them. I admire that stance but I also sense in many of their declarations a defensiveness that comes from a desire to, in essence, ostracize themselves before they can be ostracized.

What do you do if you feel like you can’t be you? How do you deal with those feelings that make you want to hide out – at least from a part of who you know yourself to be?

I posed the questions, “Do you ever feel like you can’t be yourself, and if so, how do you overcome that feeling?” to one of my private Facebook groups and was intrigued and delighted by the responses.

Being yourself in all situations can be hard, but here are some tips, thoughts and insights from my brilliant Facebook group members:

Really the idea of one’s ‘whole self’ is a misnomer. It usually means the self to which I am most attached, that I accept as ‘me’ – that I wish others to accept as ‘me’. This no more ‘my whole self’ than the selves I keep private. Feeling constrained in the presence of others is a matter of comfort – not essence. Advice? I like ‘follow your bliss’ – just not sure what it means at 4am, 3rd wakeup for the night tending to a baby, or elderly relative, or….any number of things that still require presence regardless of how the ‘whole self’ feels about it. Don’t do things that make you feel lousy, keep your word, back your own experience, recognize how much you don’t know, how much vaster the world (and I) am than I can possibly conceive. Don’t blame others for your disinclination to be in clear disagreement with them.” ~ Ruth

Kim shares, “I have often felt like that (like I couldn’t be myself) my entire life. Learning my Myers-Briggs type helped a lot with understanding the why of it but it has taken years (hand analysis and learning to read hands over the last couple of years added another layer of understanding) to feel like it’s OK to be me. There are times when I still “hide out” depending on the situation and people.”

And finally, Pamelah says, “I share the parts of me that I want to share with each person. It’s not the same with everybody and that feels completely right.”

So I bring the question to you fine reader, do you ever feel you can’t be yourself? What does being “your true self” mean to you? And what do you do to find your truth when you’re feeling afraid to share it?

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